Life as an Engineer.

15th July 2015

I left my temporary work as a clerk for a departmental store in Batu Pahat. I've been working there for 8 months since I've graduated from UTHM. I got an offer for a 3 month contract as an engineer for a local company that specialized in motor starter circuit.

Eidulfitri 2015

This year for the first time in my life I didn't go back to my family to celebrate eid, kinda sad. It made tears to my eyes but let us be real, it is only for a first time. As a person that has lived up to 3 decade, it's hard not to feel the yearning to see your parents face with your own eyes during a festive season. I just call them by the phone and beg for their mercy and ask for their blessing.

The New Guy Task

Richard(my boss) ask me to take care of creating a new profile for the company. I need to do a little startup for that. This new workplace is still in need of a little fix in the workstation management, Richard also told me that he wanted to make me the next in command for the automation department. My boss is actually not from electrical utilities background, he holds a degree in electronics. I kinda get it why he don't bother with my puny knowledge in utilities application and make me the "will be next in charge", I think I got to try hard to not make a disappointment on myself. A man got to do what a man got to do. I appreciate the opportunity, I 'll try hard to live to your expectation boss.

Simple Day Trade

I'm a forex day trader. So today I think I want to share a simple note.

This is the Buy Low - Sell High condition

The Buy Low - Sell High is a method of trade when the currency are more into rising trend. You buy the currency in low value state and when it is raising more momentum, you sell it high for profit.

USD/EUR 1Month Graph

This is Sell High - Buy Low Condition

The Sell High - Buy Low is a method of trade when the currency are more into descending trend. You sell the currency in high value state and when it is descend more in value, you buy it high for profit.

USD/JPY 12 hours graph

Things that you should consider:

1.Read the schedule of past sell, it can give you highlights on the currency leverage.
2.Rule of thumb: Never loose money.
3.Always be sure of the currency that you want to trade before making a trade.
4.Discipline over greed.

04-04-2014. A rare day when even the earth celebrates my birthday.

I woke up at 10.00am, not planning anything for the day except to buy a swiss roll cake for myself. At 1.30pm, I went to the mosque for the friday congregational prayer. I don't expect anything special to happen but as I look around me, the trees are blossoming with new flowers. It's just like the earth is celebrating my birthday. Alhamdulillah, I praise Allah for this day and for keeping me healthy and well.

Charisma

 

Have you ever noticed how some people have the ability to captivate absolutely anyone? No matter what they look like or how much money they have, these people can just walk into a room and instantly be the center of attention. When they leave, people want to emulate them. That's charisma, a sort of magnetism that inspires confidence and adoration. Like beauty, luck, and social position, charisma can open many doors in life.

The 3 Elements of Charisma: Presence

Are you a senior in high school running for Student Council President?

Are you an entrepreneur looking to make a successful pitch and attract investors?

Are you a military officer working to win your men’s loyalty?

Are you a salesman trying to land some new clients?

Are you a college professor wanting to get through to your students?

Are you a single guy looking for love?

No matter your situation in life and your individual aims, one of the most important tools for success is your personal charisma. Charisma is what allows you to command a room, draw others to you, and convince people of your ideas. It’s an essential part of being the kind of leader who wins devoted followers who are willing to go to the ends of the earth for you. Charismatic men are perceived as both likeable and powerful, a dynamic, irresistible combination that opens endless doors to them.

Charisma may seem like a mysterious quality — something that some men are born with and some are not. But this is happily not the case. You don’t need to have hit the genetic charisma lottery in order to develop yourself into a man with powerful magnetism.

Far from being a magical and inexplicable trait, charisma can be broken down into a set of concrete, largely nonverbal behaviors that can be learned, practiced, and made natural. Olivia Fox Cabane, author of The Charisma Myth, places these behaviors into three categories: Presence, Power, and Warmth. When deftly combined, these three components produce strong personal magnetism.

We will be devoting an entire post to each of these three components of charisma. Each will provide an overview of the component, as well as practical tips for developing and implementing it. Later on, we will cover charismatic body language, and, because not every “style” of charisma is appropriate for every situation, we’ll discuss what behaviors to use or de-emphasize in different situations.

We’ll start off by talking about the first component of charisma: Presence.

Charisma Component #1: Presence

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you could tell you didn’t have their complete attention?

How did it make you feel?

Probably a bit annoyed.

Sadly, it seems fewer and fewer people are fully present and engaged with the individuals they’re interacting with. Being completely engaged in a conversation has likely always been a challenge, as we all have a bit of the conversational narcissist in us.

Now that smartphones have saturated modern life, being fully present is even harder. People today try to (unsuccessfully) switch their attention between two worlds — the real world populated by the people they are physically present with and the cyber world which sends them dispatches through their phone. Go to any restaurant in America and you’re bound to see tables of people staring blankly at their smartphones and hardly engaging with each other. This video that circulated the intertubes a few weeks ago perfectly captures the way in which technology has created a society of non-present screen gawkers. Pretty poignant.

The good news about all this is that it’s now incredibly easy to set yourself apart from the pack simply by being fully present with people and giving them your complete attention.

When you think of charisma, you might think of trying to make yourself seem super awesome to others. But the paradoxical secret of charisma is that it’s not about trumpeting your good qualities, but making the other person feel good about himself. Real charisma makes the other person feel important; when they finish an interaction with you, they feel better about themselves than they did before.

Focusing your mental and emotional energy on someone as you interact is how you create that feeling of importance. People fundamentally want attention – they want to be recognized and acknowledged.

And you don’t have to be an outgoing, uber-social extrovert in order to have and display charisma. In The Charisma Myth, Cabane cites tech-entrepreneur Elon Musk as an example of someone who has mastered the art of charismatic presence. He’s incredibly intelligent and a pretty quiet guy by nature; however, he counterbalances his introverted inclinations with intense focus and presence. He doesn’t need to be the extroverted life of the party to seem magnetic; instead of chatting everybody up and offering a little of himself to a lot of people, he concentrates on giving his full, intense attention to a few; in so doing, he makes them feel incredibly special. Charisma isn’t necessarily about quantity, but quality.

Conveying presence is a simple concept, but oftentimes difficult to actually achieve. You can’t just fake it. People are surprisingly adept at deciphering your feigned interest. To truly convey presence, you must actually be present. It takes a significant amount of willpower to focus all your attention on the person you’re with at the moment. But like all things, with practice, it becomes significantly easier.

Below are some tips on developing your charismatic presence:

Bring yourself to the here and now. Presence begins in your mind. If you feel like your mind is off somewhere else while engaging with someone, try this little exercise to bring you back to the here and now.

Focus on physical sensations in your body that you often ignore. It could be your breath or it could be the sensation of your feet touching the ground. You don’t have to spend very long meditating on these sensations. Just a second or two will bring you back into the moment you’re sharing with this person.

Make sure you’re physically comfortable. It’s hard to be fully present with someone when all you’re thinking about is how uncomfortably tight your pants are or how hot it is. To that end, do what you can to ensure you’re as comfortable as possible. As Antonio has emphasized numerous times — wear properly fitting clothes! Besides helping you look better, clothes that fit well make you feel better. Other things you can do to increase your physical comfort include getting enough sleep, laying off the caffeine (be calm instead of jittery), and adjusting the thermostat (when you can) to a more agreeable temperature.

Set your devices on silent and put them out of sight. This serves two purposes. First, it reduces the temptation for you to check them while you’re engaging with someone. Second, it sends a strong message to the person you’re with that they have your complete attention and they’re not sharing it with the smartphone placed on the table.

Look the person in the eye when they’re talking. Numerous studies have shown that people who make higher levels of eye contact with others are perceived as possessing a load of desirable traits, including warmth, honesty, sincerity, competency, confidence, and emotional stability. And not only does increased eye contact make you seem more appealing in pretty much every way to those you interact with, it also improves the quality of that interaction. Eye contact imparts a sense of intimacy to your exchanges, and leaves the receiver of your gaze feeling more positive about your interaction and also more connected to you.

It’s important to note that while eye contact works well in building intimacy in friendly situations, recent research suggests it may backfire when you’re trying to persuade someone who’s skeptical of your point of view.

Nod to show that you’re listening. Besides eye contact, an easy way to convey presence is through body language, and more specifically, nodding your head. But be judicious with the noggin nods. An over abundance can indicate you’re trying too hard to please and agree with the person, which decreases their perception of your power. Also, only nod at appropriate times; you’ll need to be truly listening to know when a nod makes sense.

Ask clarifying questions. An easy way to show someone that you’re completely there with them is to ask clarifying questions after he or she has spoken. For example, you could ask, “When you say ________, what exactly do you mean?”

Another great clarifying question comes to us from Dr. Stephen Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Basically, you paraphrase what the person just said and add, “Am I understanding you correctly?”

In more casual conversations, ask people questions like, “What was your favorite part of that?” or “What was the hardest part of that for you?” People really enjoy reflecting on and answering such questions.

 

Avoid fidgeting. Fidgeting signals to the other person that you’re not comfortable or content and that there’s somewhere else you’d rather be. So don’t twiddle your thumbs or your phone. And avoid looking around for what else is going on, which signals to the other person that you’re searching for a better opportunity than your current one.

Don’t think about how you’re going to respond while the person is still talking. We all have a tendency to do this. Our inner conversational narcissist wants to be ready to jump in and start talking as soon as there’s an opening. But if you’re thinking about what you’re going to say, you’re obviously not fully listening to what the other person is saying. It’s natural to want to have an idea of what you’re going to say before you say it, but it’s okay to work through your response as you’re giving it; embrace the pause. As we’ll discuss in the article on Power, it’s low-status individuals that talk the most and feel the need to fill every silence.

Wait two seconds before responding. Breaking in the very instant a person pauses or stops talking signals to them that you were doing the above; thinking about what you were going to say instead of fully listening to them. Nonverbal behaviors are more powerful than verbal ones, so use this trick from Cabane to show you’re really tuned in:

When someone has spoken, see if you can let your facial expression react first, showing that you’re absorbing what they’ve just said and giving their brilliant statement the consideration it deserves. Only then, after about two seconds, do you answer.

The sequence goes like this:

·         They finish their sentence

·         Your face absorbs

·         Your face reacts

·         Then, and only then, you answer

Bone up on your other listening skills and you’ll make vast improvements in your charismatic presence.

The Reality Of Life

The reality of life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason why you are living this life. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself that you've tasted as many as you could and shared as many as you could.

Sorry Is My Eternal Plea.

Dim eyes,
looking at me in the face,
Cry, shall thee not,

It is true that once,
the key of my heart,
is something that you hold,

Now, I'm back,
In front of your gaze
Surely, not because of you,

It's not my intentions,
to bring unpleasantness to your heart,
Do not worry,

If my presence hurt you,
sorry is my eternal plea,
Now there is something behind the door of my heart,
who is definitely not you,

Forgive me,
If you cry again,

Forgive me,
I'm not the man I used to be,

Forgive me
If you still crave,

Forgive me,
This cloudy days will pass.

Dim eyes,
looking at me in the face,
Cry, shall thee not,

We skipped those days,
when you and I,
dance to the rythm of life,

Forgive me,
If you cry again,

Forgive me,
I'm not the man I used to be,

Forgive me
If you still crave,

Forgive me,
this cloudy days will pass,

Then we shall dance again to rythm of life,
once again..

Running throughout the night

I snucked out of my room,
hardened with the paint of unrefined fronts and lies,
and gazed at the night sky,
like always, I'll jump over the twisted wire fence,
And run over the hard pavement,

We, who are unalike, are connected by a thin thread,
Not one of those red ones you see around,
Where we meet up, huge trees stop the racket,
And only the sound of our breath soaks in,

I'll hang out with you at that empty town square,
Every time our eyes meet, they smile,
I'll run through the night; don't attack me just now,
I'll run towards the far-off light,

The graffiti on the walls and the clock that stopped suddenly,
Will grant me eternal freedom,
On my rolling back, the feel of cold concrete,
On the tip of my tongue, something bittersweet, once again,

I drew a rose-colored freehand haphazardly,
Lightning flashes in the west,
I'll run through the night; don't attack me just now,
I'll smash the fate of destruction and run through,

I'll hang out with you at that empty town square,
Every time our eyes meet, they smile,
I'll run through the night; don't attack me just now,
I'll run towards the far-off light.